This morning we drove to Dothan, AL for the Unity Service there. We have known the minister Glenda, for some time and she was excited to see us and we heard a good message. It was also good to get out of the cabin for a while. We stopped at Dobbs Barbeque for lunner. That place has been around for years and was full of folks for Sunday dinner. Check out pictures of Susanne riding a camel on the beach in Morocco. Susanne's Blog
More profundities and observities. What do you say to a person with a terminal illness? That's kind of a complex situation and most folks really don't know what to day. Er... how ya doing? Hope everything is gonna be OK. Are you in a lot of pain? What else can they do?
These questions are awkward for the asker as well as the askee and reflect a discomfort with intimacy in our normal communication. When we know the conversant is in good health, we can talk about future plans or ideas or sports or food and we don't have to get intimate. In fact, many relationships we have maintain a distancing from getting too close to another.
This withdrawal seems to be more pronounced when together with terminal illness. Doug remembers a very tense and somewhat incoherent time attending his fathers death bed where neither one knew what to say but felt that we had to talk. He feels it now when others want to communicate but don't seem to know what to say or how to say it.
Observity. Aren't we all looking for peace and love and happiness? Aren't we all looking to fit in and feel good about whatever situation we are involved in life. Many are good at expressing love and understanding and stimulating interest. And maybe that is the aim of communication with others including those with terminal forecast: "I love you. I support you. I champion you. I esteem you, whatever is happening now."